• 🐑🇸 🇭 🇪 🇪 🇵 🇱 🇪🐑@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Just you wait until you meet people with mommy issues. THOSE you wanna avoid

    Mostly because I’m my experience people with mommy issues tend to be male NEETs who are incapable of seeing any woman as just a friend. Usually incels too. I found them to be kind of abusive as people too and turn vindictive when you don’t feed into their fantasies. As a woman, it’s always the same old story when I encounter these men.

    Meanwhile people with daddy issues usually have their shit together regardless of gender.

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          11 months ago

          Can we PLEASE differentiate between people who enjoy daddy or mommy kinks in a consensual fantasy setting with partners that are also into it, from people with deep psychological trauma relating to their parents that comes out in the vulnerable setting of sex? (one can be both obviously)

          Is this that hard people?!?? facepalm

          If you are having sex with someone with “daddy issues” or “mommy issues” and that reflects some weird way through their sexuality in a way that extends beyond fantasy into the realm of problematic behavior that is entirely a different problem and it has nothing to do with someone’s “kink” at that point.

          Yeah if partner just throws a kink at you without preparing you or determining if you might be interested in acting it out, that is shitty and honestly approaching the realm of violence, but don’t throw other people who are into the same kink under the bus who would never just launch you into some weird shit without making sure you were onboard through a framework of consent.

          Kinks don’t make rational sense, they are the tension between rationality and desire. They are all disgusting, transgressive and shocking. If you don’t like it fine, but wondering why anybody would be into it if you find it disgusting doesn’t really get you anywhere.

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      11 months ago

      Yeah as someone who is into mom bods I hear enough horror stories to be very grateful I don’t have to deal with them