it’s ok the 50+ other people did

A shocking number of women are just absolute fucking freaks once you remove the consequences of being a freak, namely both intentional and unintentional physical injury, but also social consequences and unwanted pregnancy. Because I’m so open about this kind of thing I actually get a lot of women asking for advice on stuff like anal or restraints. Those women are out there, and dare I say even common, they just have to feel safe enough to let that shit out. When you make sure it’s completely her choice and she knows you’ll do everything in your power to make sure it doesn’t hurt and she’ll have the utmost privacy and won’t be forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy you might be shocked what many women will even ask to do.

TL;DR: all the weird dudes throughout history just running hogwild with rampant control / domination fetishes primarily distributed through religious extremism ruined sex for the rest of you. I was raised by fundies and a buuunch of them are hiding some pretty wild kinks under all that Bible thumping. The dude who was advocating for mutilating baby penises and made most of his money selling breakfast cereal also invented a special chair for blasting several gallons of yogurt up your butt over the course of just a few minutes, and somehow all in the name of sexual purity.

As someone into this, you have to find men who are respectful enough to stop if things are moving too fast or you’re not lubed up enough yet, and that’s difficult for a bunch of different but interrelated reasons, one of them just being that finding multiple trustworthy people is just statistically less likely than finding one trustworthy person even before you factor in gender dynamics.

I’ve noticed even the most sexually respectful men have at least a tiny pain kink, even if it’s just a little bit of an “oof” or squeak from going in too hard or fast because it makes them feel like their dick is bigger. 90% of the time that’s not really a problem (and sometimes you really do just want to get fucking pounded and feel that stretch so it works out for everybody) but a first DP really needs to be taken slow. And that’s even just from a logistics standpoint and even if you’ve practiced with dildos because you can put a dildo at any angle you damn well please but a dick is attached to a wholeass person that has their own comfort needs including what angles can be held and for how long.

So you need to find men you trust enough to not get carried away and be constantly checking in even nonverbally that your body is relaxed and you’re not wincing or moaning in the wrong way despite the fact that they’re doing this absolutely wild and taboo act and it’s hard to find one guy like that, and generally men that care that much about your wellbeing are also the men who are staying around for a long-term relationship, and THOSE men are almost to a man monogamous. So you can almost definitely find one guy that’s willing to go slow enough for anal to be enjoyable, or to insert a dildo into your vagina or anus while also fucking you but the guys who are respectful enough for that to actually be enjoyable are rarely the ones who want to share. Last time I was even in a threeway it was the dude that wound up getting doubled so like.

“Hypocritically Christian”

Then we start using the individual executives.

Oh I figured I just had slightly worse color vision in my lazy eye. Vision deficits are pretty common with amblyopia though, most treatment focuses on making sure the eye develops good focus whether or not it works with the dominant one, because then you at least have a backup if you wind up needing it.

I just finished my first week at a religious organization and my two thoughts are:

1. Thank goodness I got an IUD a long time ago because while they have to offer birth control they have a bunch of weird insurance company loopholes to jump through so they’re not paying for it directly.

2. Both the facilities and care are waaaaaaaay nicer in this tiny inner city pseudo-hospital with 3 units including the ER and psych than at the state university teaching hospital 15 blocks west that treated my psych patients like criminals on a unit full of asbestos and mold.

Yeah I mostly go back for r/BestofRedditorUpdates to get my trash drama fix and r/nursing to commiserate with my people. I’ve tried bringing in more hcw communities but sometimes its tiring to be the first of a few to move over. It elicits some pretty strong feelings of isolation.

Completely bizarre scaling choice.

Billionaires really seem to think if they just cut in the right place the rocks will start bleeding for them.

If you wanna risk an embolism, but you’re unlikely to hit a vessel meaning it’ll probably just hurt really bad.

If you leave the salt out the oil will allow you to rub the muscle deeply and promote fresh bloodflow full of oxygen and nutrients to the area to help it repair itself without irritating the skin with the friction. Also do some research into “comedogenicity” and try out some oils that are less likely to clog your pores to see what works best for your skin. I’ve personally had the most luck with Argan oil but every body is different. If you leave the salt in you can get a good exfoliation going so maybe save that for your feet.

Again, you joke, but do you know how hard it is to control STDs in a building full of women with dead husbands who can’t get pregnant?

You joke but music memory is literally the last thing to go. In fact, if you ever want to help the nurses care for your relative with dementia, make 2 playlists / mixtapes of their favorite songs. One Playlist of calming songs for them to sleep to and to listen to when they’re upset, and one Playlist of exciting songs for when the physical therapist needs to get them up and active!

Also great for tamper-resistant screws. Makes it harder for my patients to get screws out to make weapons / self injury implements or to get to the electrical wiring or create a ligature attachment point.

There is no ethical consumption. Even a bunch of the food in America is funded by prison slave labor. I’ve been sick for months and one of the only things I can stomach is bananas and chiquita just funded another cartel to kill a bunch of poor farmers over them. I’m not going to blame other people who are poor and discriminated against because of what rich people do, that’s the entire point of the psyop / propaganda. Let the gotdamn poors enjoy the bread and circuses; it’s all they’ve got anymore.

I told them they were hurting my back, which had the advantage of being true. Also I saved up. Idc what people want to label shit as long as I’m able to do what I gotta do. In fact, I would argue the labels were the problem in the first place and we should stop making new ones and push the ones that exist back into the narrow context in which they’re actually useful.

It can be. I’ve had two surgeries to neutralize the parts of my body that were gendered.

I’m NB (to the extent that I’ve had surgery to remove gendered parts of me) and sometimes I just let my friends enjoy one of the biggest cultural events of their childhood without making everything about me because I’m capable of seeing that their actual actions have always been wholeheartedly supportive of me and that’s the part I actually care about.

I have never heard this phrased with such accuracy and succinctness. 10/10, ty.